Negative Influences

Staying away from negative influences is also an important step to be a winner.There are many negative influences for today's teenagers. We must have the courage to say "NO" to those influences.

First and foremost influence is

1. Negative People

Whenever people succeed in life, petty people will take cracks at them and try to pull them down. When we refuse to fight petty people, we win. In order to fight petty people, you have to come down to their level. This is what they want, because you are one of them. So just ignore.

Don't let negative people drag you down. If you associate with achievers,you will become one. If you associate with thinkers, you will become one. If you associate with givers, you will become one. If you associate with complainers, you will become one.

Remember, a person's character is not only judged by the company he or she keeps but also by the company he or she avoids.

2. Smoking, Drugs and Alcohol

Drinking makes a person lose his inhibitions and give exhibitions. Drinking and smoking are glamorized today. There are host of reasons to drink such as: to celebrate; to have fun; to forget problems; to relax; to experiment; to impress; to be fashionable; to mingle; for business purposes. Drinking cost lives. That will be a valid reason to stop.

3. Negative Movies and television programs

Today's kids are learning their attitudes and values from television and movies than from anywhere else. That's how the crime rate is high today!

Let's all stay away and keep our younger generations away from negative influence.

Life Quotes

1. The good life is inspired by love and guided by knowledge----Bertrand Russell.
2. Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile----Albert Einstein.
3. Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans-----John Lennon.
4. Where there is love there is life-------Mohandas k. Gandhi.
5. We are always getting ready to live but never living----Ralph Waldo Emerson.
6. Life is the flower for which love is the honey-----Victor Hugo.
7. You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when. You can only decide how you're going to live. Now------Joan Baez.
8. Study as if you were going to live forever; live as if you were going to die tomorrow----Maria Mitchell.

A Puppy

A boy went to the pet store to buy a puppy. Four of them were sitting together, priced at $50 each. Then there was one sitting alone in a corner. The boy asked if that was from the same litter, if it was for sale, and why it was sitting alone. The store owner replied that it was from the litter, it was a deformed one, and not for sale.

The boy asked what the deformity was. The store owner replied that the puppy was born without a hip socket without a hip socket and had a leg missing. The boy asked, "What will you do with this one?" The reply was it would be a put to sleep. The boy asked if he could play with that puppy. The store owner said, "Sure". The boy picked the puppy up and the puppy licked him on the ear. Instantly the boy decided that was the puppy he wanted to buy. The store owner said "That is not for sale!" The boy insisted.
The store owner agreed. The boy pulled out $2 from his pocket and ran to get $48 from his mother. As he reached the door the store owner shouted after him, " I don't understand why you would pay full money for this one whrn you could buy a good one for the same price." The boy didn't say a word. He just lifted his left trouser leg and he was wearing a brace. The pet store owner said, "I understand. Go ahead, take this one." This is empathy.

Show Empathy

Empathy is a very important characteristic of a positive personality. The wrong we do to others and what we suffer are weighed differently. But people with empathy ask themselves this question:"How would i feel if someone treated me that way?"


When we share sorrow,it divides;when we share happiness,it multiplies. Sympathy is, "I understand how you feel." Empathy is, "I feel how you feel". When we empathize with our customers, employers, employees, and families - it improves our relationships. It generates understanding, loyalty, peace of mind and higher productivity.

To be a better person resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because some time in our lives we would have been all of these ourselves.

Upbringing Tips

The Greatest thing that a parent can give to his children are roots. In order for our children to turn out well, we need to spend twice the time and half the money. A strong role model or mentor could be a parent, relative or teacher who is held in high regard. Parents with high self-esteem breed confidence and high self-esteem in their children by giving them positive concepts, beliefs and values.



Good parents are not afraid of momentary dislikes by children to enforce the subject.


What Makes a child a Delinquent?

1. When we teach him to put a price tag on everything and he will put his integrity for sale.


2. When we never tell him he is wrong and he starts thinking against when he is said he is wrong.


3. When we laugh at him for he picks up bad language. This will make him think he is cute.


4. When we give a child everything he wants right from infancy and he will grow up believing that the world owes him a living and everything will be handed to him on a platter.


5. When we side with him against neighbors, teachers, etc., as they are prejudiced against him.


6. When we always pick up things that he leaves lying around - books, shoes, clothes, etc. He'll learn to push all responsibilities onto others.

These things are don'ts for parents. Children learn what they live.

Simple Tests To Judge Our Value System

As human beings we all must have a value system, doing the right thing for the right reason. But at times we get confused of our own values and find it difficult to decide our own actions. But a famous writer has made it simple by two tests.

The ultimate test is called the Mama test. Whenever you are doing, whatever you are doing, wherever and with whomever, at home or at work, alone or with someone, if values are in question, ask yourself, "If my mama were to see me doing what i am doing right now, would she be proud of me and say "Well done Boy!" or would she hang her head in shame?" Your values would be clarified rather quickly. If you passed the Mama test and failed all other tests, you have passed. If you failed the Mama test and passed all other tests, you have failed.


If the Mama test doesn't do it, there is another test called the Baba test. Whenever you are doing, whatever you are doing, wherever and with whomever, at home or at work, alone or with someone, if values are in question, ask yourself, "If my children were to see me doing what i am doing right now, would i want them to see it, or would i be embarrassed?" Again the clouds will clear rather quickly and you will get your answers.

If these two tests don't clarify a person's values, then that person is no longer a human being and has no conscience left.

We ought to remember that values are not hereditary, they are learnt. We need to get our priorities right.

Don't Rationalize

Monkey-hunters use a box with an opening at the top, big enough for the monkey to slide its hand in. Inside the box are nuts. The monkey grabs the nuts and now its hand becomes a fist. The monkey tries to gt its hand out but the opening is big enough for the hand to slide in, but too small for the fist to come out. Now the monkey has a choice, either to let go off the nuts and be free forever or hang on to the nuts and get caught. Guess what it picks every time? You guessed it. He hangs on to the nuts and gets caught.

Sometimes we are no different from monkeys. We all hang on to some nuts that keep us from going forward in life. We keep rationalizing by saying, "I cannot do this because ...." and whatever comes after "because" are the nuts that we are hanging on to which are holding us back. Successful people don't rationalize.